A child can become accustomed to loss without becoming equipped for it.
Seeing death often does not mean a child knows how to carry it. Common does not mean harmless.
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Just Because Loss Is Common Doesn't Make It Normal
5 things children in violence-impacted communities need adults to understand. Violence may be familiar in a community. That does not make its grief ordinary.
What looks like maturity may have been built from fear.
Carefulness, restraint, and street smarts may be survival responses, not proof that the child feels safe.
Normal behavior does not prove that the child is okay.
A child can laugh, function, and say I'm fine while still carrying grief internally.
Children need to know who the person was, not only how they died.
Tell ordinary stories too. A child needs the life of the person, not just the violence of the loss.
When everyone grieves silently, every person can feel alone.
Children need permission to have feelings without protecting the adults around them.
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Tell the truth. Protect the child. Leave room for grief.
Stronger People
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Safer Tomorrow
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